||29||: Beyond Hugs…

⁣When’s the last time you received a REAL hug? I’ll be honest, I miss physical touch or even the intimate non sexual touches during the day. I miss the good morning kisses, the welcome home from work greetings, let’s hold hands and explore the city, and the let me touch you till you fall asleep moments. Sigh, good times.⠀

How do you cope with the loss of physical touch?
How do you function when your emotional tank is on empty? I personally have to spend time touching myself and knowing myself. I practice creating a happy space, with a dance, creative expressions and virtual parties with friends. Through it all, I literally have to become my closest friend, and make sure that I practice joy, positivity and realness. Such as, it’s real & valid when you don’t have to strength to get out of bed, it’s real that when the silence is so loud and your sobbing & Netflix is your only background, it’s real when you finally take a shower and it feels like a victory. ⠀

Wherever you are in this journey, be sure to hold yourself and be kind to yourself in this process. This isn’t easy, life isn’t linear and predictable. I’m feeling so much, you’re feeling so much, so if you’re alive — take life one deep inhale & exhale at a time, reach out and touch another persons life in a small way, find acts of kindness to share with the world like purposeful drops of flower petals during a celebratory moment. ⠀ Celebrate you – celebrate others — reach out and touch peoples lives just because and you’ll feel that inner hug till we meet again… ⠀

Just know, I give actual hugs and I’d risk my life to hold you for even just a moment. #hugs #physicaltherapy #touch #becomingtreasure #navywife

With Love,

||28||: Being Your Closest Friend (More Than Ever)

I’m a people person, a healthy mix of I love meeting people, sharing stories, seeing the world through diverse perspectives, pure laughter —— then I’m ready to go home, turn my phone on silent and watch a movie. I can be a homebody, even though traveling and mingling is fun. I’m learning during this pandemic to enjoy the rest and self exploration.

I will admit that eventually, staying home everyday can get old and feel a little lonely. I’m also aware that not everyone is enjoying the solitude, some are out of work and in need of financial assistance, some are beyond exhausted with the extra work; lack of child care, stress for their families, working from home, separated from family and the anxiety from the current emotional climate concerning racial inequality. Whew.

So much has changed because of the uninvited guest COVID-19. The virus is still living here and so I’ve learned that it’s not going anywhere, and we have to learn how we will function best for ourselves and our family.

The point is, I’m contemplating whether or not I enjoy my own company more than I enjoy spending time with people.
I learned while in college how to live with people and then when I returned home, I learned to enjoy my own solitude. I told myself while seeking healing and confronting trauma that, I must be my closest friend. I must know myself so well that I can be confident, unapologetic and self aware.

This year is different, my husband joined the Navy this Spring so we’ll be physically apart. We are learning our new flow, communicating through FaceTime, voice notes and patience is needed as we transition.

Here Is My Personal Prescription for Being my Closest Friend starting July 2020:

  • Improve my sleep schedule and switch to 7-9 hours Of Rest, commit to a consistent bedtime routine.
  • Log off of social media every evening at 9pm, take total social media breaks as needed.
  • I want to feel refreshed and energized each morning, commit to stretch, meditate and drink warm lemon water (alkaline drink).
  • Create a schedule for work, life, self care and notice when I’ve over scheduled my work + appointments.
  • Keep playing, dancing, creating, exploring, embrace inner child.
  • Speak highly of yourself. (I love to uplift & affirm others) I need to return positive self talk to myself.
  • Continue planning and hosting virtual parties to bring joy to your friend groups and social community.
  • Be real, transparent, honest.
  • Learn to set boundaries and be unapologetic about self preservation.
  • Read, Write, Blog.
  • Confront fears or decisions have been purposefully putting off, reward myself for conquering fears and reaching goals.
  • Have uncomfortable conversations with self and family.
  • Speak kind words, continue affirmations, affirm others, GO TO THERAPY.
  • Pray & Seek for a new spiritual community.

For those who are suffering with the solitude, I’m thinking about you, thinking about friendships and the need for quality relationships. I’m active on IG, so if you ever want to talk feel free to reach out, I’m present.

With Love,

PS: The mask I’m wearing is from a close friend and creator, her name is Tara and she is precious. https://www.nudaunthebrand.com