||64||: It All Feels So Crowded

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It’s not you, it’s me…

“Real luxury is not working like a maniac to take an expensive vacation–it is living a life you enjoy every day.”

Kathy Gottberg, Rightsizing* a Smart Living 365 Guide to Reinventing Retirement.

Have you ever felt that way before? Like you need a vacation away from your stuff. You feel suffocated, and your getaway is more than just a break from life, its a break from the heap of stuff and indecision. Here you are, in a room that isn’t yours, and the space is cleared just for you the guest. The room has nearly everything you need. Sure you haven’t brought everything you own and if someone walked in the room, they wouldn’t feel that it is your place because it isn’t it is a temporary stay.

Well, I want to feel that feeling of tranquility everyday, I want my space to have a tiny mix of getaway and beautiful uniqueness. I’m not talking about black, white, sparse, and possibly medical looking. I’m talking about having your needs met, your essentials, and decor that says I live & rest here, come join me, you can safely rest here.

Still, you are less agitated, all you have to do is possibly make your bed, and put things away where they belong and enjoy the reasons you traveled. Maybe you’ll go to a park, maybe you’ll go visit sights, whatever you do, it all happens with your most important relationships, as you enjoy experiences together.


I’ve felt this way even more during early Quarantine days when I was home for 1-2 months. It was rough looking at my closet, hardly touched and being too sad to get up and wash dishes. Whether you’re working from home, out of work, having a home filled with children who depend on you, or living in solitude by choice or loss. This period has been tough on everyone.

I’ve become increasingly aware on the changes I need to make. Some changes can happen immediately and others will take tiny habits daily to make the noticeable change.

I am doing this for me.
I deserve peace and tranquility.
The only person I can change is myself.
Whatever you do, Whatever you choose to keep in your lifestyle and home. Be sure your home is functional and beautiful within your budget. Life is short. When we focus on what really matters, it’s not much. It’s far less than we own. And it can be scary to admit that, that we actually spent so much of time, talent and treasury on hunting and gathering stuff that we don’t use or need. Sometimes we collected out of fear instead of necessity. I’ll admit that I wasn’t minimal minded as I fearfully hoarded items from March to May.

“But when we really delve into the reasons for why we can’t let something go, there are only two: an attachment to the past or a fear for the future.”

Marie Kondo
This isn’t about shame. It’s about wellness. It’s about showing ourselves more love, seeing things more clearly, and be kind to ourselves during these challenging times. As I encourage myself, a fellow human in need of learning and reminding.
Let this be a gentle reminder: To let go, ever so slightly, and make room for what truly matters.

Sending virtual hugs,